By Daniel Itai
Tiffany Kagure Mugo, author of Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex, has since said there is nothing wrong with having a threesome provided certain boundaries are met.
A ménage à trois as they call it French is something that many view as unethical especially in the African context but Tiffany has since argued that expressing one’s sexual desires is amongst the very ways of having a healthy sexual relationship with your partner.
Many couples usually don’t talk to each other about how they feel when they are having sex which at times causes that relationship to be strenuous leading to infidelity, separation and divorce.
“A threesome is a sexual activity between three people. It could be three people who don’t even know each other or a couple who decide to bring another one in the relationship. It’s all about knowing what your relationship is all about which is doing something fun, sexual exploration, sexual fantasy and playing with somebody else.
Moreover, it can help a lot in your sexual communication. A lot of people don’t know how to have a conversation about sex with their partner and it’s very important to have that conversation.
However, when having a threesome boundaries are so important, have the conversation figure out why you want and before the threesome hang out beforehand, figure out that other person what their boundaries are and also figure out what your boundaries are,” said Tiffany.
Moreover, the author said catching feelings during and after the threesome was something which was normal and inevitable.
“Catching feelings is something inevitable. As humans we are very indulgent once we have a taste of something we want to have more of it again and that also happens in a threesome but the question one should ask is, is it someone whom you want to always see naked? So you have to think it through before you let feelings get hold of you. Moreover, it’s about how you manoeuvre and you have to figure out what those feelings are it’s more like a symptom because sexual attraction can come and pass, however, catching feelings is not that bad,” added Tiffany>chaosafrica
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